Whenever you say that you'd never do something, you are saying a lot. You are stating that you have evaluated a nearly infinite range of scenarios and that there are no circumstances under which you would perform the action in question. It's likely then that we should be careful of such utterances. Let me give you two examples from coworkers, both regarding the state of matrimony.
Several years ago my coworker had reached the conclusion that her 2nd marriage was over. I can still take you to the exact spot where that day she exclaimed "I'm never getting married again!". I said something like "Are you sure?" knowing full well this was unlikely as she was only in her 40s. She unequivocally stated that she was never marrying again. Guess what she did within a couple years? Yep, got married for the 3rd time.
I had another coworker who also stated after his 2nd marriage ended that he would never marry again. At the time he was dating a coworker. Well, two weeks ago, after close to 7 years together he proposed to her and she accepted.
Never is a really long time. Be careful when making utterances that contain this phrase, lest you have to eat your words at a later date.
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